NEVER IGNORE A CHANCE

06/07/2014

Never leave a chance. Never let hopes leave.

This realization, helped me go through all the obstacles in my life.

Big or small ones, every rock there is in your way must be kicked out and not overpassed.

There is always a way, only yourself can create the right one.

We must always create. Without creativity our life is plain. No one wants a plain life.

Each one of us must believe, and have faith, it allows you to cope.

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It is no secret that facing your fears makes you stronger and even more powerful in your own space. I do believe that all things made possible by ones 1)belief 2)willingness 3)work.

 

Nothing is ever made with inaction, or with someone at the other end telling everyone what and how to proceed. Work to be done, for good, needs a simple ingredient.  Collaboration. If you can’t communicate or have the willingness to follow your dream, then it surely won’t happen itself.

It’s a common practice that people are not aware of their strengths. I experience this from my own self. I can see how i lose my faith and hope, but every time i do, i stand corrected. Why? Because there is nothing i tried and haven’t succeeded. My whole life is a battle between my wants and how to accomplish them, and believe me with first of all hard work, and willingness i create the things i want.

If you try too much, and fail, is not always a sign that you did something wrong, because Failure might be the key to success. Although identifying the reasons of failure can also lead you there.

Very Important Tip: Most people’s hold-back-thoughts about trying too hard are being corrupted by other people’s judgement. Well, the time where the ones who judge will start working on their own failures isn’t far, so please ignore everyone says you can’t accomplish for any of their reasons.

 

My final reason for losing faith and hope is the people around us. Usually the kind of people who don’t try hard to get what they want, and they don’t always get it, are always surrounded by people that admire them when it’s the opposite that they should do.

We shouldn’t be around people that admire us, but with people that we admire.

People that worship your every move, as i call them mood-boosters, soon will find someone or something else to get attached to, so there is no reason we should be let them affect our criticality and let them decrease our motivation.

 

Pretty well every time I write an article I do believe that every start is a new one, and you can’t percentage your failure. BUT never lose hope because nothing great is ever accomplished without persistence and patience. Because you must translate your wants into work. Because we shouldn’t use the mood-boosters to change our thinking.

 

*Have a great summer!


SETTING GOALS

01/27/2014

If you read my blog, you will probably have understood that I am all about setting goals, making lists and plans. I don’t like leave everything to its fate. Although I like to live each day differently, I believe that having a written schedule of your day keeps you organized without being organized. In a few words, lists put your life in order.

Goals should be written down with a date expiration. This way you can organize and plan the whole idea of achieving. The written goals are representative of your inner wants and needs and it’s a reminder of your desire to achieve. When you set a goal and measure the achievement, you are able to see what you have done and what you are capable of. If you don’t write them down, then how can you look back and re evaluate your path if you fail?

MY ULTIMATE GOAL: My goal is to create operating systems for myself that allow me to think as little as possible about the silly decisions I make all day long.

I wish i could say I haven’t set a routine but I realize i do have one. I wake up at the same time every day, shower, then work. Although it would be a lie if someone would say that I am captived during the work hours. I am a guy who’s always trying to pack up as much as I can into a single day and I am lucky to have a job that I can gain inspiration from. My job gives me another way to be productive, and that’s important for the mood I bring home afterwards. This is a way to fill every second of my day collecting inspiration from the second i wake up till the same time the next day.

I would say I am being inspired by the dreams i have during my sleep also.

ImageMY SETTING-GOAL POLICY:

The ultimate focus should be on what you can actually achieve at your best. You have to focus on making real time decisions and should be according to your daily life.Goals are being divided in two categories. The false and the correct ones. The false ones are those who make you creature of habit. The correct ones are those that can make you better and move forward.

FALSE GOALS EXAPMPLES:

  • You can set as a goal to go to bed every day at the same time but every day has different demands so be realistic.
  • Having an empty mail inbox is a fake goal because your goals are being set to make you better from achieving not overpassing.

CORRECT GOALS EXAMPLE:

  • Complete task before its expiration date.(time management)
  • Ways for yourself to think less and act more.

Through goal setting you have the luxury to remind yourself each day, what is it that you really want. Also when you check a task out of your list it’s the ultimate satisfaction and it makes you want to achieve more.

To sum up goal setting can help you through the rough times, finish your tasks efficiently and focus on important things.

Keep listing.


THE INTERNET CAN DEVOUR YOU

12/03/2013

Now, I don’t want you to just read this article, I want you to read it and absorb what I am trying to pass on you.

THE INTERNET 

The Internet is a place where everyone given a little bit of attention, thinks he’s on top of the world. The Internet can really make you feel like you’re on top of the world and it does. On the other hand, the Internet can make you feel like you are a piece of trash and that you don’t belong even though you clearly belong. You definitely 100% belong.

So let’s start by stating the obvious. The Internet is a virtual place. With just a click, you can be anywhere in the world. Or you can also be anyone in the world you would like to be. You can be anyone and anything you choose to be. But remember, that’s only in the virtual world. In reality, you will find yourself in your bed with bulging eyes in front of a screen. That’s scary right?

What in fact interesting is, that people who use the Internet are being called Users. Not people; Users. We’re 0s and 1s. That should’ve rang a bell by now.

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Since the Internet is NOT the real world, but a virtual one, the top way to communicate with each other virtual selves (friends; whatever), is by typing words.  Words like the ones we use in the real world where people communicate with spoken words. You see there is a big difference between the written words and the spoken words.

Words are so powerful, and the Internet is full of people that don’t know how to use them. The impeccable use of strong and influential, with great potent, words makes a good novel readable and a good article worth to read.

Users are trying to walk the talk and they fail. People with no education, using the Internet and since the virtual world is a CHAOS, everyone co-exist in this one big of a mess. People with PhDs and people with no education at all, exchange opinions through the Internet, something where in real life that would be unacceptable. UNHEARD RIGHT?

That’s why Users are hating on everyone. Online bullying is a really serious problem. If you’re fat you have to look thin. If you’re ugly you have to look beautiful. If you’re uneducated you have to look educated. If you haven’t been to a place, you have to show that you have been to that place. And all this because of the new Internet (virtual world’s) standards. This online bullying to people that choose to live their virtual life as their real one HAS to stop.

A great example: This very evening, I checked my Instagram notifications, i saw Lena Dunham‘s Instagram post that were saying the following:

Why on earth would someone Imagego to Lena’s Instagram and hate on her body when she’s a brilliant artist, and a refulgent person? She is one of them users that chose to be exactly the same in their virtual and real life. Why would you best prefer, for Lena, to post pictures of her-not-real self? She is what she is, and that’s what she’s showing. The REAL her. Just because you don’t project your real self on the Internet that doesn’t mean you have to hate on someone for choosing the right way.

Of course Lena Dunham is an example, users hating on everyone just because they can. But WORDS guys, words are so strong you have no idea.

Now, something bad has happened or trying to be happen: Nowadays, since the Internet is a basic way of life, we try to merge the virtual world with the real world. THATS UNHEARD. That’s something that is really out of this world but we try to make it real and of course we fail every single time. You can’t merge your USER life with your REAL life. It’s like playing with Sims; that’s not you, if you know what i mean.

That’s a basic reason why this merge of VIRTUAL and REAL world CANNOT HAPPEN: Users are waiting for other users to like their updates online. It’s a way to feel accepted in the virtual world. It’s like talking to someone and say a good word to them, but no, in the real world you wouldn’t talk nice to them, but of course you would like their picture on the Internet.

If you want to make an impact and act like your virtual self emerges to the real one then you would know what a “like” means and you shall not “like” something you don’t like.

Being popular on the internet gives you advantages only if the impact of your virtual self engages to your real self.

If what you have created over the years, being a user, is not what you really are in your life, big disappointments are coming for you. No no, don’t be scared. The disappointments are coming for you in your real world, and it won’t affect your User life.

It’s time for you to start having a real life. It’s time you stop co-existing with a virtual self. If you’re too engaged to the virtual world that’s not a problem. There’s always time, and friends, real friends, that can make you feel REAL.

A USER is not what you really are, stop acting like one.

I am closing this article with a quote from a really genius person that, for me, says it all

“Everything is so amazing and nobody is happy” – Louis C.K


THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP EXPECTING FROM OTHERS

09/30/2013

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.  This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.

Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter. Which means it’s time to…

1.  Stop expecting them to agree with you.

You deserve to be happy.  You deserve to live a life you are excited about.  Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that.  You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours.  In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else. You have to dare to be yourself, and follow you own intuition, however frightening or strange that may feel or prove to be.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  Don’t get discouraged by their progress or success.  Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose.  Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

2.  Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.

True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles.  It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it.  Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.”  It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy.  When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.

3.  Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you.

You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another.  Don’t ever forget your worth.  Spend time with those who value you.  No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you.  Smile, ignore them, and carry on. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself.  And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you.  Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.”  But that’s perfectly OK.  The things that make you different are the things that make YOU, and the right people will love you for it.

4.  Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.

Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves.  When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM. Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be.  We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful.  Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it.  The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.

5.  Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking.

People can’t read minds.  They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.  Your boss?  Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet.  That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy?  Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either. In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively.  And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words.  You have to tell people what you’re thinking.  It’s as simple as that.

6.  Stop expecting them to suddenly change.

If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do. For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try.  Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them.  It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not.  When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way.  Because what really changes is the way you see them.

7.  Stop expecting them to be “OK.”

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you.  Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own. Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark.  We are measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them.  Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards.  This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles.  Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK.  Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.

Afterthoughts

People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to.  Hope for the best, but expect less.  And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things.  Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.

READ MORE AT MARC AND ANGEL’s HACK LIFE blog.


DO MORE, WITH LESS

08/29/2013

One word, eight letters. O R G A N I Z E. You can never start something new, without having to make first an outline. A plan on how to move in this very new beginning of yours. Make every step incline to the goals you’re setting and include everything you think is the most important.

Do not make a plan using the same old things you’re doing. Because if you want to achieve new goals, you have to do what you don’t usually do. SO, block out every incoming-truly-unwanted stimuli that surrounds you and stick to your plan.

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Of course, doing more with less, everyone’s mind goes to have more with spending less. And no that’s not the point of this article. I’m not here talk to you about your economical situation and taught you how to spend your money. Do more’s meaning is about doing (productivity) and by “less” i mean less energy and sources to use in order to achieve and succeed and create.

So in order for you to build something new, something refreshing you have to completely give up some of your things that’s keeping you from doing it. Something you think is the least important in your daily life, something that drains your battery out the most.

Reach your personal satisfaction and your self improvement in the highest levels by doing what you simply care about the most, and everything will follow. Yes, of course, I didn’t say it’s going to be easy. It might be extremely difficult or it might be unnaturally easy. But in my case i don’t really count on that, because the results will definitely come.  And once they’re complete you’re feeling complete too.

Do what you’re great doing. Since we all have something upside to ignore, give it a try and do it.


#DARE

08/13/2013

Uniqueness is not only defined by ones appearance and someone’s personality.  Uniqueness is defined by ones actions, beliefs and wins throughout their lives. Beliefs and actions were taught in school till now you’re reading this post. Wins though, to be won, you need to practice in daring. Because no dare, no win, right?

Dare to be yourself, dare to the truth, dare to fail, dare to “fall”, dare to success, dare to dream. If you are not willing to dare, you are not going to win. Usually people with low self esteem find it dificult to win, and that’s because they change the way they act depending on what other people think of them, and they adopt their opinions to match with them. People often try to dare only in their dreams, and imagine how their life would be IF they were living their lives as their true selves.

ImageFirst you need to know that you really want to “win”, and once you accept it, you have to proceed. Start doing bit by bit the thing you need to do in order to make what you want to be yours. By my experience, everything you need is right in front of your eyes. All you have to do is make a big step; stretch your hand and just grab it. The difficult part is the big step. The “how to make a big step”. Your low self-esteem is blocking you from showing others the wonderful person that you really are. Work on your self-esteem first, and then it will get easier to be you. The “big step” is going to be done at a perfect ease.  And then all you have to do is just stretch your hand and grab what’s in front of you.  That’s all. If you’re not willing to dare, you are not going to take anything at all. And once you’re not taking, you’re not giving in revert.

It’s easier and greater to be defined as self by your personal dares/wins rather than by your surroundings of friends and family.


TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE

07/11/2013

O b v i o u s l y this is not a subject that needs any further discussion. Most of the people i know seem eager to give advice. I, on the other hand, am horrible in giving advices. No one knows what you’ve been through, so their advice is hardly useless. 

Honestly, your own self is more eligible to re-group your thoughts and feelings and then decide on rather you act the one or the other way. Sometimes it’s hard to sort all the things out because there are usually a hundred thoughts, but in the end you are going to pick the best answer. 

Of course everyone likes to give advices, because they care for us, or they don’t. But anyhow, people like to talk. It’s easier to say than do anyway. So if you found yourself in a difficult situation that you have no idea how to continue, an advice of a close friend means no harm. You can collect as many advices and opinions you want, but the final choice is yours to take.

You have a self-discipline that allows you to take your own advice as the strongest, and look at the entire picture by yourself. Others will talk to you by how they learn from their own experiences, but only you know the real reasons, the true feelings and the consequences that will follow. Many people think that they’re good at giving advices but they really aren’t. 

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NOTE TO SELF:if the results of choosing not your own but your friends’ advice are not the ones you were expecting, you should never put the blame on them, because all they were trying to do was lead you to the right path. (or whatever they thought it was the right thing for you to do)

As a conclusion, i strongly believe that if you ever going to be taking advice of someone, keep in mind that you always put your own opinion first because only you know how to make YOUR situation better. 


LET’S TALK TO EACH OTHER

06/12/2013

Who doesn’t want someone to be there for them, in the bad or even the good times? Everyone needs someone who can talk and show affection to. Whatever obstacles there are among you and the others must be crushed away. And only you know the right way to achieve this.

Others’ don’t know what’s inside your head, so if you don’t show it, others can’t just smell it in the air. If we want to be closer to each other, we have to talk to each other. Talk about our feelings, our viewpoints, fears, ambitions, goals, desires, wants, needs, fantasies etc. Talk about everything and any thing with each other. 

Be there at the end of the day. You can always rely on the person that needs you the most, even if they don’t say it straight to you. Always listen to what the other has to say and if they don’t want to talk about it right away then don’t push them to. They will come to you when they need this. 

The most difficult part of the bonding process is to be honest with each other. As every most important thing, being honest is the most difficult part too. The glue of doing well with someone is to be honest and listen to them.

ImageIMPORTANT: We can be there for each other, only because we want to and NOT because we have to. That’s one of the most frustrating reasons for couples to be together. It’s not that it is annoying, it’s just that it’s not right and it’s fully dishonest. 

This self righteous attitude you have that you are more concerned about what you feel will not lead you to choose the right path and achieve things. It will only make you confused. So if you want to save yourself, thinking about yourself will not fix it for you. 

“Don’t freeze up the part of you that feels.”

My tips: Show your affection. Talk to each other. Be honest. Move on. 


NEVER GIVE UP

04/12/2013

Dreaming big is the easy and the most exciting part of following your dreams. The hard part is working day in and day out to keep your dreams alive.  Many times I told myself i could never give up something, but as i am alive i know that anything is possible, and also i fully understand the quote we must “never say never.”

At some point in the various journeys we embark on in our lives, we get to a part where we feel like giving up. Sometimes we give up before we even start and other times we give up just before we are about to make the huge break-through that we have been putting so much effort in to achieve.

I strongly believe that you WILL and CAN do what you set to do. Everything you want to, if you believe in your dreams, can be true. That’s a phrase we all have listened to a thousand times but it’s also kinda true. Once, i somewhere read that “Better a Has-been than a Never-was. But better a Never-was than a Never-tried-to-be.” That quote has been kind of a motto for me, and i can say that it helped me through in my life. Without goals, without visions, people would wandering around their cities, searching for nothing, doing nothing, in a few words they would live a pointless life.

Everyone can do anything. If the king of your thought is that “ I’m not going to do what HE did, because he is the one” you’re right, you’re never going to reach him. BUT with a little faith, of course you are doing it, you’re reaching it, and be sure that you will overpass him also. You are the one that sets that for you, and no other. Slowly and steadily you will win the race, either you want it, or not. The point is that you will try.

If you already tried, and being knocked down more than once then that’s where you should stay stronger, and never imagine of giving up. Giving yourself permission have another go, try something different and learn from your mistakes. As i have mentioned on another post of mine FAILURE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS. Take a look and try it cause that’s what i do.

Often when you feel like you want to give up and you are about to give up you are so close to making a huge break-thru. So DON’T do it. Anyway, being the rebel of yourself for yourself, you also are the achiever and not the looser..


COMPETITION AT WORK

03/10/2013

It’s very crucial to be tolerant of your own progress and that of other people as comparing yourself to others might pull you down or even distract you from what you initially were supposed to do.

ImageI mean if you trying to accomplish a goal in your life, don’t expect the same results as your friend who did the same exact thing. People are not the same, don’t act the same and definitely don’t have the same impact. So, the level of advancement in whatever you’re working on, might be slower than your friend’s if not faster. It’s crucial to tolerate other people’s progress and not be motivated by it.

We, as individuals, we are different, have different capacities and priorities in life. If they achieved more than you by working not so hard as you did, that does not mean in any way that the other individual is better than you.

Achieving goals is not only based on your work-only-skills but also the interpersonal skills and how you talk around with your colleagues. Use positive words in your inner dialogues or when talking to others. Grin a bit more, as this helps a lot because once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to take care of it and endeavor to substitute it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your brain and then you have to substitute it again with a favorable one.

It doesn’t matter what your circumstances are at the moment. Anticipate only positive results and situations and circumstances will alter accordingly.

Concentrating on your own goals and accomplishments will help you work more accurately giving your work or whatever you’re doing more concentration producing better results.


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